Do Bartenders Get Laid? (The Truth)

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Joe | Last Updated: May 10, 2023
I'm Joe, a veteran bartender with over a decade in the industry and a burning passion for mixing drinks.

Working in the bar and nightclub industry can be incredible, especially if you’re young and looking to enhance your social and love life.

It’s a great way to develop your social skills and you’ll find that after some time in the role, you become much more confident when speaking to people and have no problem striking up a conversation with strangers.

You’ll meet new and interesting people every single night which can lead to lots of exciting opportunities, whether that’s meeting a new romantic lover or developing your career.

Today, we’re going to answer a question that often runs through people’s minds when they see a handsome bartender chatting with customers. “Do bartenders get laid?”

Yes, bartenders do get laid, it’s a real perk of the job for those that are single. Working in a thriving bar is the perfect environment to get laid, and those with even a little bit of charm will add some notches to their belt.

Do Bartenders Get Laid?

There’s no denying that bartenders get laid, this is why lots of them prefer to stay single and enjoy themselves whilst working in the role.

Bartenders meet new, attractive people every single night, so it’s the perfect opportunity to test and develop their pick-up skills out in the field.

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While there are some bartenders who don’t get laid, these are few and far between and are either in a relationship or have very weak game.

Those that are good-looking, confident, and have some experience in the dating scene will thrive in bartending roles and should have no reason why they aren’t getting laid regularly.

Why Do Bartenders Get Laid?

Whether you’ve never been laid in your life or are an experienced slayer in the bedroom, working as a bartender is a sure way to increase your numbers.

Let’s take a look at some of the reasons why bartenders are getting laid every night all around the world.


Working in an environment that is fuelled by alcohol, fun, and sexual chemistry makes it the perfect place to meet a partner and get laid.

People all around the world go out every single weekend looking to meet the love of their lives or at least have some fun back in the bedroom.

Think about it, most single people that go to bars regularly are there for one reason only, to have fun and get laid.

As a bartender, you are quite literally putting yourself in the perfect position to meet these people, especially if you work in a busy bar.

The environment is set up perfectly for you to give your number out and flirt with customers, ultimately and hopefully leading to you getting laid.

Social skills

Successful bartenders are slick, charming, and full of confidence. They know exactly what to say to people to get on their good side, and that goes for customers and potential partners.

After some time in the industry, the skills you learn transfer perfectly over into the dating scene and allow you to effortlessly pick up chicks/dudes.

You’ll rarely come across a bartender that isn’t able to have an engaging conversation and this goes a long way when trying to get laid, especially if you have other characteristics that complement your skills.


Let’s not beat around the bush, appearance goes a long way when it comes to getting laid.

Who wants to hook up with an ugly person, drunk or not drunk?

Bartenders that are hot and have a presentable appearance will find it much easier to get laid than those who don’t, period.

They are already in the right place at the right time to get laid, but those that are naturally attractive have it way easier.

Some people are naturally attractive with little effort and these are often the bartenders that get laid every night without fail.

But even the bartenders that know they aren’t exactly prince charming can still get laid.

Some cologne, a smart dress sense, and good grooming can quickly turn the tide, especially as a bartender.

Do Male Bartenders Get Hit On?

Male bartenders get hit on A LOT, every single night in most cases. Whether you’re an attractive bartender or not, you’ll find that people hit on you simply because you’re the bartender.

Alcohol increases sexual desire in a lot of people and can boost arousal significantly. As a bartender, you’re again in the perfect situation to make use of this, especially if you’re trying to get laid.

Attractive or even semi-attractive male bartenders will find themselves being hit on all of the time, and this can be a blessing if you’re single.

It can lead to a phone full of numbers and having dates every night of the week. Bartending is undoubtedly an AMAZING way to boost your sexual activity if that’s what you’re looking for.

I’ve experienced shy, timid men and women start bartending and within a matter of weeks, they are significantly more confident and going on dates/getting laid.

This is magnified if you’re the only male bartender working the bar and you’ll notice people catching your eye and asking for your number all the time.

>> Read more: how to pick up a bartender

Do Bartenders Sleep With Each Other?

Bartenders sleep with each other all of the time, largely due to being in close proximity to one another every time they are at work.

Sexual chemistry can begin to build quickly when working closely with someone, especially if they’re attractive and in a bar setting.

After work drinks become the norm and as you’re working together sometimes a bond is established quickly which can lead to things escalating at a rapid pace.

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Depending on the size of the bar, I would say bartenders sleeping with each other is equally as common as bartenders sleeping with customers.

Whilst this doesn’t happen in every bar, if there’s a large mix of male and female bartenders that are of similar age it’s a recipe for getting laid.

Final Thoughts

I hope this post has given you a clear answer to “do bartenders get laid” and you now know that the answer to this question is a resounding YES.

Whether it’s getting laid with customers or other bartenders, it’s happening all of the time in the bartending industry which can be a huge perk or a complete turnoff.

Those that are in a relationship may find themselves being tempted while bartending, but those that are single will likely enjoy the huge increase in sexual activity.

To be frank, anyone should be able to get laid whilst working as a bartender. The environment is set up perfectly and so long as you’re a “normal” person that can seal the deal when it comes to it you’ll have great success.

Thanks for reading this post and I’ll see you in the next one.